I know our friendship is too one-sided, but I cannot bear the thought of being without her. How do I maintain a healthier relationship?

I met my best friend a year and a half ago. She’s fantastic and caring, but I feel I have become too reliant on her for advice and reassurance. I am obsessed about messaging her and become anxious if she doesn’t reply immediately. I check my phone constantly in the hope she has texted me, but I always feel she is ignoring me. On top of this, I am extremely jealous when we are around our other friends and hate myself for it. I know our friendship is too one-sided, but how do I maintain a healthier relationship? I can’t bear the thought of being without her.

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